look for the fear
if you think you’re acting out of character, or not fulfilling your potential, look for the fear factor. you will gain some insight to the situation instantly.
what am i afraid of?
more often than not, the answer is something personal. once you gain that insight turn your attention outward. as seth godin notes fear is self-focused, while generosity is about others, which is why the next question becomes:
how can i help?